Emma Weylin

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So, every year we do the same exact thing for Easter. We go to a lame restaurant with the hubby’s grandparents. At least the kids looked like they were having a good time and I am just happy another holiday is finished….not much holiday spirit, I know, but I thought holidays were supposed to be about relaxing and taking a day off, not having a boat load more work to do.
Anyway, here are the pics of the girls in their Easter fare…

My baby is getting so big! Before I know it she’s going to be a moody teenager! Yikes! I’ll take the kid smiles and easy joy while I can take it.

Hmmmm….I wounder what she knows that I don’t.

Yes. They are the most adorable kids I have ever seen.

This is going to be a short post. I have a bazillion things to do, and never seem to have enough time to get done thing I want because of the “have to’s”.
Let’s see, today’s complaint is going to be about how adults interact with children.

Personally, I find most of the interactions appalling. The first question asked is “Why are kids so rude these days?” Well, because no one takes the time to properly teach them how to behave! Instead of making them feel bad by telling them how crummy they are, why not take the time to help them learn how to be praised for good behavior so they can EARN a good feeling about themselves?

Daycare and babysitters are the normal way the kiddies are taken care of while both parents go out to earn a living in this modern era. (Aren’t we women glad we fought for the right to work like a man? Isn’t it just wonderful what not having a parent home has done to our children?)

Yes, this is a soap box issue for me. I am all for women having time to fulfill themselves and all that other stuff. I am a writer and I take out time for myself and my goals and dreams daily, but I am at home, with my children all day, every day. My husband and I have decided that the well-being, safety and education of our children are more important than material goods.

That’s right folks, we only have 1 vehicle and that vehicle is used for everything we do, including business. If the husband has to work, I am stuck at home with the girls. We have to get creative on scheduling things during his busy times of the year because I can go upwards of three weeks without a way to get to the grocery story that isn’t at 1AM in the morning. We don’t have the latest and greatest of anything because we can’t afford it, BUT my girls are getting a quality education (With the help of cyber school to make sure all state requirements are met) they have me at home with them at all times. If they misbehave it’s MY fault. When they are wonderful (Which is most of time-at least while in public) then that is also MY doing. I can’t blame it on anyone else because I am the one who has taken responsibility for their care. I birthed them, and so, they are my responsibility to rise into happy, productive adults. The husband fathered them, and so, it is his responsibility to help me raise them and provide for them while I care for them at home. SO what if we can’t afford to do all the cool things everyone else does. We can afford enough that they aren’t being deprived of happy childhood, but have to watch money closely, so they aren’t spoiled until they are absolutely rotten little beggars.

I understand that SOME people just aren’t good with kids. Great, perfect, wonderful. They are still people. SOME people don’t like to deal with old crabby assholes either, but somehow, we are forced to deal with them more than SOME people are forced to deal with kids.

OK. I think I am going to shut up now before I get carried away and this gets longer than the time I have allotted for blog writing.

Keep smiling and have fun and remember; They ARE kids! Let them be little, but still teach them in the way you want them grow.

Whoosh , and the year is almost over. It seems like 2009 just started and now we’re almost to Christmas. Where does the time go? I still need to get my Christmas shopping done.

We had a wonderful Thanksgiving at my mother’s house. She is slowly learning that some family traditions don’t need to be upheld if no one really enjoys doing them anymore, and that creating, new, well-loved traditions are the way to go. We are slowly getting there, but it’s a slow and painful process, though she seems to be happier the more time that passes. I can’t wait to see what new and wonderful things the family will be doing on holidays in years to come.

Anyway, I think I am going to get a jump on the New Year’s resolutions and all that fun jazz.

1. I will have a clean house. I am the worst housekeeper in the world, but now that I know why my family and I have such issues with it, I know I will be able to fix the problem. Who knew people with Dyslexia had a difficult time containing clutter? Anyway, that is on the top of my list, obviously, because it’s number one.

2. I will get a list of knit and crochet projects I want to do this year and plan them out so I can get them done when I want to, like for holidays and birthdays. It will happen, I swear it. (So maybe this one should be considered better time management?)

3. I will get Phoebe reading at grade level by the time she starts 3rd grade.

4. I will get less irritated with Willow when she just wants to babble at me because she loves to talk.

5. I will fully write, edit and submit a novel by the end of 2010. No if, ands, or buts about it.

I think that’s a pretty good list for this coming year.

Of course this all comes when I am on the injured list. Really, it was the dumbest thing in the world. I went to my writer’s group (Hi Time, Hi Bill) on the 20th and I fell in the parking lot, now, before anyone tells me I should sue them, I tripped over my own two feet like a big old clumsy idiot. I landed on hard on my knees and sprained my ankle badly. I’ve been in a splint (they call it an air cast) for the last week, and I expect to be in it for the next five because I can’t seem to make myself behave and not walk on it. I do have crutches, but they get in the way and make my armpits hurt. That’s probably too much information for some, but it’s the truth. But I will get this started and I will make it all work this coming year. It’s time for me to finish growing up and become an adult. I will take the rest of the year to make my cleaning game plan, and then get it started.

I have a one shot novel in mind for the one I need to submit this year, so, hopefully, I will be able to get that all done. No, scratch that, not hopefully, I will get it done. It needs to be done, and I need to do it so that I am bring some money into this house.
I discovered how Phoebe learns, and she’s been reading little books to me for the last few weeks, so that’s well underway.

I think I need to set aside Willow babble time every day so that she had undecided mommy time to just say whatever strange and bizarre things she needs to say. I think it will be good for both of us and I think for both of them, I will start either a computer or a written diary everyday that we write together so that I know we are keeping up good communications.

As for my craft projects, well, I think that’s part of my creative outlet along with writing, so I really need to get the time management thing underway so that I am getting everything done that I want/need to get done, like house cleaning.

I know I can do this, and I will do it. I just have to do it as obsessively as I can write a first draft novel.
Sorry, no pictures today, and I think that’s all I have to say, anyway, I hope everyone had a happy turkey day, and I’ll try to update more with this thing next year.